I think we have all had the experience of being offended by another person. Somebody does something (or maybe they didn’t do something we thought they should have), and our feelings get hurt. We feel offended. Perhaps we also feel anger, or jealousy. Perhaps we feel vindictive and want to get even. Perhaps a person comes way feeling inferior, neglected, unwanted, unloved.
Something I have come to realize is that whenever a person feels offended, in some way they are believing a lie. Perhaps the lie is, “because of that person’s actions I am not important.” When a person buys into that, it really hurts. But it is not God’s truth about that person. It may be true that the other person thinks you are unimportant, or not, but either way God’s truth is that you are important.
There can be many lies we buy into when we are offended, here are some other possibilities: I am unloved, forgotten, unimportant, a failure, unheard, not trusted, not wanted, overlooked, a disappointment, a burden, etc.
There can be many others. Regardless of what had happened, we should look to God to learn the truth about ourselves. We are surrounded by imperfect people who at times treat us very imperfectly. We should forgive them, and pray to God to find out who we are. The truth is that we are each children of God who are loved, we are each very important to God. He knows your name, and the details of your life matter to him. You are not inferior, nor are you superior to others. Your life has a purpose. As you let go of being offended, you can respond with loving compassion. You can be at peace regardless of circumstances. You will be in a better position to discern your purpose, and live an amazing life!
Be quick to forgive, slow to take offense… and then quick to forgive again and let it go so you can be free from feelings offended. Feeling offended is a heavy burden you don’t need in your backpack. Forgive others, forgive yourself, an give your burdens of offense to Christ. He can make your burden light!